Oct 14th: Advice from your Elders

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:38 am

Will, with Sara, awkwardly knocked on Jubilee's door, with the book in the other hand.

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:41 am

"Come on in!" Jubilee called out.

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:42 am

"Um, good afternoon, Ms. Lee. I hope you're not too busy," he said, shifting awkwardly from foot to foot.

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:43 am

Sara steps inside behind Will, seeming awkward as hell and not entirely convinced that this is a good idea. "Hello, Ms Lee..."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:44 am

"Nope, things are pretty slow today. Take a seat and tell me what I can do you for."

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:45 am

Will pulls out a chair for Sara, waits until she's seated, and takes one of his own. "Um....geez, I don't know how to start. It's a personal thing; not a powers thing or an X-team thing..."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:46 am

Sara stays quiet for now, happily letting Will do the task of bringing up the reason for their visit.

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:50 am

"Well, you know my door is always open, for any problem you might have." Jubilee replied. "Start talking, I'm all ears."

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:51 am

"Well, you see...

No, um, well, we were wondering...

Well, Tink gave us...

We were interested in..."

Finally beat red, he just placed the book on Jubilee's desk.

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:54 am

"We figured we should talk to someone about it and... well... we were kind of at a loss as to with whom..." she adds, in case Jubilee wonders about why they came to her with this.

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:56 am

"I see." Jubilee replied, blushing a little "Well, I'll be willing to give it a shot. What is the problem, exactly?"

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 3:58 am

Will looked over at Sara. "Well, we...don't really....know anything, other than I enjoyed it when Sara dragged me to her room under influence of Ayami Morita..."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:01 am

"All I know is that I tend to take charge of things every once in a while. Usually when I feel like have to, like during the mission. But I don't really know anything about... you know... that." she nods towards the book Will put on the table.

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:07 am

Jubilee sighed a little "I'm going to go out on a limb here, and assume that neither one of you has had very much sex, right?"

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:08 am

"Um," Will said, blushing red. "I've become much, much more experienced in the past month and a half."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:10 am

"Well... none at all until recently..."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:18 am

"Ok, in that case, my first piece of advice is to relax. It can take awhile to figure out what you like in bed, and figuring in out can be half the fun. The second piece of advice" she looked at Sara "Is to drop the idea that what you like in bed has anything to do with who you are or what you like outside of the bedroom. There are lots of high powered executives who like to be spanked and told they are a naughty boy, and there are tons of boring suburban couples who have a dungeon in the basement. Now, you care about each other, right?"

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:20 am

"More than anything."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:22 am

"Yeah. I love Will."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:27 am

"Thats good. Ideally, that means that you'll be able to trust each other and talk about what you want to try. Just be honest, and communicate. Talk to each other about what worked and what didn't, and you'll figure it out."

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:29 am

"Sara...well, and me too, I guess...were wondering, uh, you know, why people are even interested in this kinda thing...I mean, from my upbringing, this is, well, it's wrong."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:45 am

"Honestly? I don't think that anybody knows, really. Like everything else about your personality, its probably a combination of genetics and enviroment, all of it working together to shape who you are. As for the question of wether its right or wrong....the usual standard is to ask if its 'safe, sane and consensual' if something meets all three criteria, its ok. Or, put another way, what matters is the attitude. If you're doing something because it makes you and your partner feel good, and you're doing your best to make sure that its done in a way that is physically and mentally safe then really, it doesn't matter what the act is."

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:47 am

"But, um, if I'm....giving Sara that power...doesn't that, uh, kinda mean...

Well, Sara's worried that I've got low self-esteem or something..."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:51 am

"When Sara is 'in charge' does that make you feel good about yourself?"

by **Will Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 4:55 am

"About myself? Well...I dunno, but it feels...

It feels fantastic. It's...it's such a thrill, knowing it can go any which way, and I'll just be taken along..." he said, clenching and unclenching his fist. Hell, Tink...Tink bought us a collar, and while I'd never wear it, just the thought of it was enough to bring all those feelings back up..."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 5:03 am

"In that case, I don't think that its likely to be a self-esteem issue. If anything, it means that you're confident enough in yourself that you're willing to temporarily give control to someone that you love and trust. Did the collar bug you, Sara?"

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 5:07 am

"Yeah... Will tried to explain it to me, it being a symbol for trust and all, but I can't help but feel it's... well... degrading in a way. The collar more-so than the whole thing in general, but still..." she pauses for a moment.

"I've seen, and I mean literally, how Will thinks about me and he thinks I'm better than him. I... don't want to promote that, you know? Because it's not true."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 11:23 am

"Of course he thinks you are better than he is." Jubilee replied "Most people think that about their sweetie, and guys are especially prone to that shit. No offense." she added, glancing at Will "But the bottom line is that there isn't any 'right' or 'wrong' way to do this. If the collar bugs you don't use it. Just keep an open mind. It might always be a problem, or it might not bug you so much later on."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:02 pm

"Still... I mean, I know it's supposed to be about trust and respect and all that, but there's that... under-current, I guess, of humiliation and I don't really like that part."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:08 pm

"So, don't humiliate him. Praise him. Tell him when he is doing something that you like. Tell him that he's a 'good boy', and reward him for being obedient."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:22 pm

"I just want to avoid implying anything. Maybe I'm just over-thinking it, I don't know... this whole thing is pretty new to me."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:33 pm

"So, start with something light and easy and see where it goes from there. Tie him up and do what you'd normally do, have him rub your back, that sort of thing. Just keep communicating. That is the key."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:42 pm

"But that 'is' what we normally do. Well... except the tieing up, I guess. But it's not like I really have to tell or order him to do anything. He's pretty much done everything when I've just asked him to..."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 12:55 pm

Jubilee called upon super-human reserves of self-control and, somehow, managed to avoid giggling. "In that case, just keep asking him to do things. Just do it....more."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:09 pm

"Wait, you mean... but... it's not like we were already doing... 'that'."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:23 pm

"See, it really isn't that scary, is it?" Jubilee pointed out with a little smile.

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:30 pm

"You mean when people have been calling Will 'whipped' they were right? And here I thought Tink was just trying to tease us with that present..."

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:39 pm

"Oh, Tink was just being a pain in the ass." Jubilee replied with a grin "But that doesn't mean that she didn't figure out what was going on quicker than you did. In...lets say, intimate situations....you like being in charge, and Will likes letting you be in charge. I don't see the problem."

by **Sara Stanton** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:56 pm

"It's not really a problem."

"Even if I don't like people seeing Will as my 'pet'." she adds, mumbling.

by **Jubilation Lee** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 2:32 pm

"I'll lay you odds that they are jealous, and are giving you shit about it because they know it pisses you off." Jubilee replied "Next time someone says that, just say 'yeah, so?' or offer to show them pictures. They'll shut up really fast."

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